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Rainy SoCal & A Sunday Brunch

Post CardIts raining right now here in sunny southern California. I really do enjoy when it rains. I’ve got the patio door flung all the way open just so I can hear the splash of the water and take in that wonderful smell of rain-wet concrete. That sounds a little smart assish… but really I do love the rain.

The sky has been threatening all day with dark grey clouds and cold breezes. Then finally around 6:30 it started to spit, and now it’s turned into a full on rain storm. It just puts me in such a relaxed state. It really makes me want to sit back and be creative. Make something, or write something. I figured the next best thing to something really creative was to post a little entry on this blog. 🙂

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That was short

That all seemed to go really fast. The family has come and gone… and the whole trip seemed to be over in a blink of an eye. It could be because I had to work almost every day they were here. And it could be that we were a few people less then usual, but it all just seemed to scream by.

As always, it’s great to see everyone. We had fun and I wish I could have spent a little more time with the group. Ahh well. Janey and I will have to plan a trip when both the babies are born (I just realized that I never mentioned that two of my sisters are getting ready for babies, this will have to serve as the official announcement).

I just heard that my mom and dad are spending an extra day in Mesquite since there is quite a blizzard raging up in Utah. Everyone else got home last night (they flew).

Alright, this post is a little disjointed, but I think I got all the info out that I wanted to…

The family is on their way

My reading audience will be cut down by at least half this week. A good portion of my family is on their way here from good ‘ol Kaysville. It should prove to be an eventfull and fun week. Whenever they come to visit I do quite a bit of running to try and help everyone have a good time.

As you might imagine, they spend a good portion of the days (if not every waking minute) at Disneyland. But they normally come during the busy season when the parks are open a bit later. We’re in an off season right now so we’ll be kicked out at around 9 PM at the latest. That leaves us some great time to visit other SoCal draws. Janey and I were thinking of some fun things like Roscos Chicken and Waffles… or maybe the Chicken House at Knotts for dinner. Maybe we could even head out to a movie on monday when it’s supposed to rain like crazy.

Anyway. I’ll come write some more when they take off and tell you how the week went.

I got a reply from Pianodude

Piano RoseAwesome! It didn’t take long to add to yesterday’s little story. I got a reply this morning, and at 6:21 AM no less. He must have been pretty fired up about all this. Check it out:

LOL! Dude your funny. Janey said she didn’t send the message. I jumped to conclusion and I apologize. I was just stressing at the moment. I don’t know who wrote the message. But Like I said, only janey knows about me and my cousin. Well besides my cousin. But I don’t think she will want anybody to know that. Did you know a little secret about janey and her cousin paola. why don’t you ask her. When you want to make fun of my past, lets talk about janeys past. Of course she’ll deny anything. And I’m not trying to mess things up between you guys. You guys seem like a nice couple. I saw all your pictures on findmimi.com. I’m really happy she found someone to love her. Cause at one point in my life I loved her very much. I prayed to God that she would find someone special and for her to be happy. And she did. Did you know I was with her when she got the job at disneyland. I was so happy for her. I prayed and prayed the night before the auditions. The first time she didn’t get it. But they offered her a 2nd audition. She didn’t want to do it cause she was discouraged the 1st time. But I told her go for it. I’ll pray double this time and you’ll get it. And guess what, the rest is history. A week later she left me. LOL! I was a terrible boyfriend. She was a terrible girlfriend. But I loved her anyhow. almost 2 years we were together. I’ll never forget her. Just keep her happy and always be there for her like you have been. You seem like a cool guy. I love disneyland. 6 year annual pass holder. I miss fantasmic. you should know my cousin, works in alladin. she used to work at abc bistro before they closed it down.
Anyway bro sorry for the mix up. I didn’t mean to cause any problems between you and your lady. I’m sure it didn’t faze you guys at all. You seem to have a strong love for each other. Please forgive my intrusion in your guy’s life.
I’m just trying to figure out who wrote that damn email.

Sincerely,
Fabian.

Now I don’t want to go too far in deconstructing this little gem, but I at least want to point out a few fun things.

First he laughs out loud (“LOL!”). This I imagine is to show me how affable he is. After the chuckle he throws a pseudo-compliment my way. (“Dude your funny”) At this point I’m sure he’s feeling like we’re old pals, but the pleasantries are over… it’s time to get down to business.

The next passage has got to be nominated for the bi-polar hall of fame:

I jumped to conclusion and I apologize. I was just stressing at the moment. I don’t know who wrote the message. But Like I said, only janey knows about me and my cousin. Well besides my cousin. But I don’t think she will want anybody to know that. Did you know a little secret about janey and her cousin paola. why don’t you ask her. When you want to make fun of my past, lets talk about janeys past. Of course she’ll deny anything. And I’m not trying to mess things up between you guys. You guys seem like a nice couple. I saw all your pictures on findmimi.com. I’m really happy she found someone to love her. Cause at one point in my life I loved her very much. I prayed to God that she would find someone special and for her to be happy. And she did.

Holy crap my head is going to explode. Here is what I read, try to match your list up with mine (in chronological order):

  • An apology
  • His distressed mental state
  • A quick note about his ignorance
  • His apparent embarrassment about whatever he did with his cousin, and his desire to keep it quiet
  • A backhanded dig at my girlfriend
  • Defensiveness about the stranger making fun of him (me)
  • A subtle hint that he would like to mess things up between Janey and I
  • A compliment about how nice we look
  • An earnest plea for divine intervention in his
    ex-girlfriends life.

It seems that once again Pianodude has mistakenly gotten the impression that I give a damn about anything related to him or his relationships. It may come as a hard realization, but I don’t.

That’s really as far as I want to take this little game. I hope the next time he’s tempted to write me a note, he will remember that he is nothing more then that little bug that bothers me for a few minutes while I’m mowing the lawn. It’s gone with a wave of my hand, and I never think about it again.

Pianodude,
If you ever read this, I encourage you to go out and try to find yourself someone (preferably not blood related) to share the wonderful things in life. Do your best to form a bond that can’t be broken by a note from some anonymous MySpacer. If you do something your embarrassed about, own it, don’t hide it. If someone else knows about it, they get to do with that information what they please. You, unfortunately, don’t get any input in the matter.

So go find your special someone. I have, and it’s a great thing. Janey is fantastic, and you should feel like an absolute tool for being anything but wonderful to her.

So once again, stay strong Señor Pianodude. You’ll find your someone.

Stay strong Pianodude

Piano RoseSo something funny happened tonight. I’m not sure how to explain it… so I’ll just start typing and hope it all makes sense.

Before I really start the story I have to reveal something that is quite embarrassing. It’s something I try not to tell many people, and those who do know have only found out despite my best efforts to hide it. What is this little secret you ask? It’s simply that I do have an active account on a nasty little website called MySpace.

Before jumping to conclusions please understand that anytime I do direct my browser to said site I immediately take a piping hot shower to scald off the stench. If you don’t know what MySpace is, then please skip past this paragraph, and be happy that you have no clue. I am not going to even explain how myspace works in fear of sparking your interest. To use the catch-phrase of the year; myspace is a “social networking site”.

I heard it best described this way:
“If the internet was a bar, then Myspace.com would be the bathroom wall!”

All you really need to know is that MySpace is a website that allows people to send messages to one another.

With that out of the way… let me get to the story of tonight.

I was just minding my own business, surfing around the super high technofangled inter-web. I was reading my news, and returning a bit of email when my wonderful girlfriend said something to the effect of “have you checked your MySpace in a while”?

I, of course, cringed and said “no”.

She then said to me with mild trepidation “…you should check it”.

She spent a short time explaining what had happened/not happened, and what could possibly be waiting for me should I decide to log into MySpace. After her explanation I just couldn’t resist the temptation.

Once logging in I found a message waiting for me in bold red letters “You have a new message!”. A quick click to the inbox presents me with a subject line that nearly made my Diet Coke explode through my nasal cavity. Are you ready for this?!?

“This is what your girlfriend sent to my girlfriend.”

I was instantly thrown back to third grade when boys would often tout the strength of dads or big brothers to get them out of sticky situations. Anyway… moving on with the actual message:

From: Pianodude
Date: Feb 26, 2006 8:28 PM

(click on the link below then look at the comments, and pay close attention to the dates. Did you know he was engaged, and cheating? And one other thing, before considering this guy as a potential ‘mate’ ask him what kind of relationship he’s had with his cousin… just thought i’d help before he breaks your heart. Take it for what it is or don’t.)

My girlfriend broke up with me. Thanks be to Janey!
Why would after all these years janey would do something like this to me?

I don’t understand.

To those who haven’t connected the dots yet, this message was from Janey’s former boyfriend. He is under the impression that Janey sent this message to his, now former, girlfriend via MySpace. He’s also under the impression that I give a damn.

Now I’m not one to let such a heartfelt message go un-answered. I promptly replied with the following (of course keeping with the standard of grammatical excellence set by the original sender):

Hey Man,
Sorry to hear your Gf broke up with you. I don’t know why would after all these years janey do any sort of bad to you. Who are you?

I don’t understand either.

If I had to guess, I’d say this was the killer line:
“Did you know he was engaged, and cheating?”
Most girls would call it quits after that.

If your lonely you could always check this out [ http://kissingcousins.bardsofulysses.co.uk/ ] . This particular group is based in the UK, but I’m sure they could hook you up with a support group or something closer to home.

Your pal,
R.

I haven’t formed any conclusions about the human race after tonights events. It was just something that happened that made me laugh. If Señor Pianodude decided to send a reply, I will be sure to post it here.

A great day in a new place…

I know I’m a little late for this update, but sometimes I have a hard time buckling down and just getting stuff written. If you read Janey’s blog you already know about the trip we took last friday, but I’m gonna tell it anyway.

Lets start with a little back-story (I’ll try and keep it short)… Quite some time ago Janey and I planned a little trip down to Chinatown in LA. We got some directions from Janey’s roommate that turned out to be terrible, and we were lost in LA. We decided to ditch the chinatown idea and ended up driving just a little further to see the cool movie mecca that is Hollywood Blvd. When we got there hunger struck and tempers ran high, so we just bagged the whole deal and drove home. Ever since that day I’ve wanted to go back and really see what’s around (I’m pretty sure that Janey always felt the same).

Now some things you need to know for the rest of the story:

  • Janey loves Disney’s “Lady and the Tramp”
  • I majorly messed up her birthday this year so I really needed to redeem myself with Valentines Day

Many ideas crossed my mind while trying to figure out what I was going to do for Valentines day. I consulted several people for feedback on my ideas and each one seemed to be a winner, but none of them quite felt right to me. So I kept looking and I ran across what I thought would be the perfect activity for us. I’ll try and spare you the nitty gritty details of my discovery. I’ll just say that in late January I found this:

Lady and the Tramp

What could be better! Her favorite Disney movie in all it’s re-mastered big screen glory, in one of the most wonderful theaters in the country! I contemplated it for a few days and just couldn’t think of anything that was going to top it (also taking into account my post-christmas, post-travel, pre-wealthy budget). So I called and found one of her days off and got the tickets! Granted, it actually was a few days before the REAL Valentines day… but I’m hoping that won’t be an issue.

So since we were already getting out of Anaheim I thought it would be cool to just make a whole day-date sort of thing out of it. So we added a stop in Long Beach to the itinerary. A stop to Roscoe’s Chick & Waffles. Don’t ask too many questions about this one… it’s just something Janey has wanted to do for a long time, and this day was all hers.

So after a few hurdles in the morning, we finally got on the road!

Our stop for chicken and waffles was great. It’s a good restaurant with a funny menu. Everything tasted great, and I’m sure we’ll go back sometime. Now ON TO LOS ANGELES!

The air was hazy, and the traffic was bad, but we finally arrived on Hollywood Blvd. and the world famous Walk of Fame. There was so much to see that I’m not event sure where to start. Our show tickets weren’t until 7:15 PM and we arrived at a little after 2:00 PM. We had plenty of time to wander and just hang out.

We saw so much cool stuff. Here… I’ll just link to pictures of some of the highlights:

To see the whole lot of photos from this trip (click here)

So as dusk settled over Los Angeles, the neon shined bright and our showtime creeped ever closer. We decided that before the movie we needed to stop in the Disney Soda Fountain & Studio store. It had been recommended to me by several folks. It was really fantastic and I could really tell that I was on Disney property from the second I walked through the door. We were greeted by a smiling fellow in a chef’s costume. We wandered for a few minutes through the store portion of the place, then sat down for some wonderful treats. I got a huge banana split and Janey got a coke float. It was really really good, and the place was just really nice.

Now it was finally time to head for the theater (not difficult at all since it’s right next door). So exited the soda fountain crossing over the Walk of Fame stars of Donald Duck and Disneyland. And in just a hop, skip and jump we were very first in the VIP line with tickets in hand. We weren’t waiting too long when in one choreographed movement two costumed ushers opened the large front glass doors. An older gentleman walked up to Janey and I with a very kind welcome and dropped the ropes in front of us so we could enter the theater.

Once we got into the lobby another very nice person directed us to the VIP counter for our free soda and popcorn. It all happened so fast that we hardly had to think. It was in the door, got the treats, and we were into our seats inside of one minute. Every face we saw was smiling. Every person who spoke to us was kind and very welcoming, and this was on the last show of the day! I’m sure they were all on the end of their shifts and excited to get home, but we felt like we were the first guests of the day. The El Capitan cast really does Disney proud. We had nothing but wonderful things to say about every person we encountered.

El Cap StageOK so lets talk for a second about the theater! This place really is a palace. It lives up to every bit of marketing hype I heard. Its big and beautifully restored to a condition that looks brand new. The colors are vibrant and the fabrics are plush. And as icing on the cake, the background music that you hear as you enter the theater is coming from an organist on stage playing a fantastic restored Wurlizer organ that must have just under a million keys.

This sort of preshow entertainment is just simply a lost art but it makes all the difference in the world. It puts everyone in a good mood. I really could go on for pages about the preshow alone… but lets get moving along.

When showtime rolled around, the organ on stage floated gracefully into a trap door as the theater manager took a mic just off the stage right apron. He extended a big thank you to the organist and welcomed the audience to the theater. Again, this is such a simple thing that makes all the difference in an entertainment experience. He made a very simple but effective announcement about keeping phones and such quiet and then kicked off the show.

The lights went down, and the trailers began. After 3 trailers for other disney movies that will be at the El Cap later this month the main drape closed on the stage. I was a little confused at this point since I’m so used to going from trailers right into the movie. The drape had only been down a fraction of a second when it started on it’s way back up. As it raised we could see that it was revealing something new, it wasn’t a full sized movie screen, but a smaller 4:3 aspect ratio screen that was probably only 10′ across and bordered by a beveled trim. Very small by todays movie screen standards and clearly not made for a feature film. The proscenium lighting dropped and the screen came to life with an all to familiar title screen for “A Walt Disney Mickey Mouse Cartoon… Puppy Love”. In honor of valentines day they were playing one of the cutest vintage Disney shorts featuring Mickey, Minnie, Pluto, and FiFi.

There really is nothing that compares to seeing these original Disney shorts in the theater as they were intended. Simply wonderful.

As the short came to a close the drape flew up to reveal Mickey and Minnie live on stage dancing to a wonderful orchestral waltz. It was a cute little moment that I enjoyed quite a bit.

And finally when Mickey and Minnie were finished another curtain opened up to reveal a full movie screen and Lady and the Tramp began in it’s fully restored, digital projected splendor.

What a great day this was… Memories made to last a lifetime.

Top 10 Advantages of ADD in a High Tech Career

So I found this article about the “Top Ten ADD Advantages in a Hi Tech Career”, and to be honest, every one of the items on the list describe me perfectly. ADD for me was a major hurdle in high school, but since moving out into the real world many of the traits that come with the ‘disorder’ can be quite a plus.

I would venture to say that all the items this author calls out as a plus for a high tech career I call upon every day in my career in show business.

Read on…

Adult ADD Strengths » Top 10 Advantages of ADD in a High Tech Career

Top Ten ADD Advantages in a Hi Tech Career.

1. The Ability to Hyperfocus.

Hours of full engagement and concentration in a task, IF you find it interesting. You can get into the zone and be totally immersed in what you’re doing while the outside world disappears. When I went on the net for the first time in 1993 at an Internet cafe I got on the machine at 8 pm and around 4 am decided it was time to go home.

2. Rapid Fire Mind.

Your brain processes information at hyperspeed. You can do things in 30 minutes on a computer that might take other people hours. Downside if you’re stuck with an old machine and not enough RAM you’ll be frustrated cause it can’t keep up with the speed of your brain.

3. Multitasking at Will.

Able to run 14 apps at a time and effortlessly switch between each without breaking a sweat. Able to do several projects at a time with ease.

4. High Energy Level.

You’re able to keep going on a project (if it’s interesting, ADDers are more into creative and entrepreneurial activities than clerical and repetitive ones). 14-hour days? No problem. Adrenaline is my fuel source:)

5. Highly Creative.

Able to think beyond the idea of a box. This comes naturally for ADDers, while others pay thousands of dollars to try and learn this. Since you take in more information than the average person, and you’re easily distractible, you’re more likely to view a problem from many different angles than vanilla people (non ADDers), and therefore come up with more possible solutions to a problem. Need an idea generator? Find an ADDer.

6. Quick Learner.

IF it’s something you’re interested in. ADD is mainly a condition of boredom; you have no trouble paying attention to something if it’s interesting. Most people find it difficult to do boring or repetitive things but these can often totally shut an ADDer down. Your rapid fire brain highly creative mind the ability to hyperfocus equals fast absorption of new information quickly. Dr Ed Hallowell, who has ADD and has written several Delivered from Distraction : Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder, said he stopped teaching Psychiatry at Harvard University because the non-ADDers brains were just to slow and they took so long to get it. He got tired of being continually frustrated waiting for them to catch up to the ADD students.

7. Stimulus Seeking Brain.

A perfect match for the wired world, an under stimulated brain and an over stimulated virtual environment. Being an info junkie can be a good thing. Well, not always:)

8. Constantly Scanning your Environment.

Allows you to notice more and find information and resource that others miss. Also allows you to see possible problems before they arise, and opportunities that others may not see because they have tunnel vision vs. multiplex vision. An ADDer invented the electronic ticket.

9. Great in a Crisis.

High energy intense situation? Lots of chaos and change? Sign me up; I thrive on stimulation, change and chaos. We can create order from chaos effortlessly. We can also create such an environment as well if needed.

10. Risk Taker.

Impulsivity means you’re more willing to take risks and have a bias for action, act now while the opportunity is hot instead of getting into analysis paralysis. Many entrepreneurs have ADD i.e. Paul Orfalea who founded Kinko’s, JetBlue Founder and CEO David Neeleman who attributes his creativity to ADD. Both are Billionaires. Imagine how successful a high tech CEO would be if they didn’t take many risks.

These are just a start of the advantages of ADD, for more go to the list of 151 positive characteristics of people with ADD at my ADD Resource website.

This is not to say there are no disadvantages or real problems associated with ADDers in a high tech career, there most certainly are, and if you don’t learn to manage them, they can a great deal of trouble and grief to your life (and those around you), but that’s another article.

© Pete Quily 2006

unfinished

ok OK… so I know it’s been forever since I posted anything real to this blog. Believe me folks… it’s not for lack of trying. I’m actually sitting here looking at no less then six unfinished blog entries. I start ’em, but I just can’t seem to hold on to a thought long enough to finish them.

so I’m going to try.

For a start, I’ve just updated my events section on our photo album. This should give you a little eye candy till more info gets posted here.

Talk to you soon.

Why Computers Crash.

So I know this is a totally stupid way to come back from such a long blogging break… but it made me laugh out loud while sitting at my desk.

Thanks for the mid-day comedy Jac! 🙂

If a packet hits a pocket on a socket on a port, and the bus is interrupted at a very last resort, and the access of the memory makes your floppy disk abort, then the socket packet pocket has an error to report.

If your cursor finds a menu item followed by a dash, and the double-clicking icon puts your window in the trash, and your data is corrupted cause the index doesn’t hash, then your situation’s hopeless and your system’s gonna crash!

If the label on the cable on the table at your house, says the network is connected to the button on your mouse, but your packets want to tunnel to another protocol, that’s repeatedly rejected by the printer down the hall.

And your screen is all distorted by the side effects of gauss, so your icons in the window are as wavy as a souse; then you may as well reboot and go out with a bang, ‘cuz sure as I’m a poet, the sucker’s gonna hang

When the copy on your floppy’s getting sloppy in the disk, and the macro code instructions are causing unnecessary risk, then you’ll have to flash the memory and you’ll want to RAM your ROM, and then quickly turn off the computer and be sure to tell your Mom!

This might only be funny to computer people. It made me laugh anyway.

Hibernation.

I’ve spent the better part of the last week sort of in mental state of hibernation. I’ve been working, then going home. Then back to work and so on. It’s sort of been an uncomfortable blind routine. It hasn’t been to the point of what I define as a ‘rut’, but a slump for sure. It’s not something that happens to me very often. It seems to come when I’m not working hard enough.

I’ve had no events since our Christmas trip, so life sort of feels dull… that might be the start of it. But I do have events coming up so my mind has a place it could go. There’s some neat creative things to keep me busy, but not a lot. They are big events, but nothing that I would consider terribly flashy or difficult to produce. I’m guessing that when I’m back into my routine of back-to-back gigs I’ll feel a little more at home.

The hardest part about this little slump has been the timing, or rather the coincidental timing of the same sort of slump (though I can’t speak for her) in Janey’s life. Usually when one of us hits an obstacle, the other is quite good at becoming the support system to make it through. Some times that works better then others, but overall it’s been a great deal. Neither of us have immediate family close, so we are really each other’s family down here in CA. Anyway, it just usually seems like when there’s a bit of a down time in one of our lives, the other is there with a supporting hand. It’s really nice. But what happens when both supporters need help at once? Tension.

Here is my theory…

Both have the desire to help AND be helped at the same time. The rub is that when you’re speaking about matters of emotion and mental state, a person who is seeking any sort of a crutch can’t be expected to be a solid support for someone with the same problem. If there was ever a time for the phrase “blind leading the blind” that would be it!

Now reigning this all into real life, how does this pertain to me? It’s all about how life is feeling. You know when things just feel off/disconnected/strange but you can’t explain exactly why? I know most people feel it. It’s when there is a thousand symptoms of life problems on the tip of your brain ready to be unleashed on the next person to ask how your doing, but none of them seem to be the real root of what’s bugging you. If you fixed any one of them all the others would still exist, and in most cases more would pop up. Well folks, the reality is that when this happens there is almost always one root cause for the entire mess. There is one doosie of a something that is lodging itself somewhere up in that noggin of yours, and it’s just spending it’s time pissing everyone around it off.

When life feels good it’s hard to imagine anything could bring you down. And if you forced yourself to think about it you’d be sure that you could handle it. I know that’s how I think. When life feels good I’m quite certain that my level head would win out in a game against my emotions. But when push comes to shove the logical brain heads for the back seat to buckle up and there can be some nasty business ahead. Don’t get me wrong… I wouldn’t say that I’m ruled by my emotions. I would, however, say that my logical side loosens the leash a bit.

In the end I think it comes down to self. Even if you have a good crutch. Even if there are people around you that would love to take your burdens. Even though you’d like to let them bear your burdens… it all comes down to self. If you can’t do the hard work and get out of that rut yourself, you can’t hope to be a good supporter of someone else.

So what’s the point of all this? Nothing. It’s my blog and I’ll write what I want. I don’t have a solution, I just have love. I’m happy with my life an the people in it. I want them to be happy have the same love for me. Now I’m getting out of my rut to go give my girlfriend a kiss. (and maybe some flowers)